The user data, user accounts, installed programs, and important settings will be preserved. All other preinstalled (system) settings are restored to their factory state with an repair install.
I hope I'm not imagining this.. but wow I think the problem resolved itself? Some big update came along and I kept installing it and then eventually it somehow ended up installing KB5013943...
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Thank you so so much for all your help in the past couple of months wow.